Monday, September 28, 2015

Comparing ~ We All Do It

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Borrowed with permission from The Write Conversation
by Vonda Skelton @VondaSkelton


No matter where we are on this writing
journey, we tend to compare.
Beginning in 2003 and continuing through 2011, Edie and I led yearly NCompass Writing Retreats. The goal of each retreat was to offer a time of refreshing, refueling, and of course, writing and rewriting. But in our last year of retreats, we realized that year’s focus was on another re: releasing.
Let’s face it, no matter where we are on this writing journey, we tend to compare. We compare our words to other writers and determine our worth. We compare their publications to our rejections. We long for their successes and see ourselves as failures.

Even multi-published mega-authors can succumb to comparison. Why did her book do so well when mine is obviously better? How could the movie producer choose his memoir over mine?

Comparison is a trap
Comparison is trap that can lead to anger, frustration, jealousy, and resentment. It can lead to quitting when God says to keep going.

But the correct response to comparison is simple: release it. Release the responsibility to succeed. Release the motivation to beat out others. Release the drive for big sales, major contracts, and movie deals.

That’s not to say that we shouldn’t do our best to learn and grow as writers and to seek to get our work out–we should! His Word says to do everything with excellence. But it does mean the motivation must be more than simply money and recognition.

God is ultimately the one who determines our paths.
As followers of Christ, our motivation must be to please Him by developing the gift He’s given us, and then accept the truth that He is in control.

We can work hard and work smart and do everything we’re taught as writers…and still receive rejections.

Because we’re not in control.

We can take classes and rewrite till our fingers bleed…and never see our names on the cover of a book.

Because we’re not in control.

God can choose to bless a less-than-perfect book…while letting a well-written one sit on the shelf. And whether we agree or not, we must release it to Him.

It’s through the release that we truly become successful Christian writers. Because then He can use our words to change hearts for eternity…regardless of how we compare to others.

How do you find release from comparisons? Be sure to leave your tips in the comments section below.

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Vonda

Vonda Skelton is a speaker and the author of four books: Seeing Through the Lies: Unmasking the Myths Women Believe and the 3-book Bitsy Burroughs mysteries for children 8-12 yo. She’s the founder and co-director of Christian Communicators Conference, offering speakers’ training and community for Christian women called to ministry. Vonda is a frequent instructor at writer’s conferences and keynotes at business, women’s, and associational events. You can find out more about Vonda, as well as writing opportunities and instruction at her writer’s blog, The Christian Writer’s Den at VondaSkelton.com.

3 comments:

Gail Kittleson said...

I met Vonda just one, years ago at a conference. I certainly resonate to what she shares here. It's tough to keep your eyes on the goal and off the other runners - you know those videos of the racer who glances back JUST for a second … usually comes to no good. So thanks for sharing this. And congrats Novel Rocket! You've helped a lot of writers, keep up the good work here.

Edward Arrington said...

I am enjoying getting acquainted with new authors through Novel Rocket, Facebook, and numerous other websites. For a few years when I got back to reading more as I had when I was much younger, I only knew of a few good Christian authors. Now I'm learning about new ones every week or sometimes on a daily basis. As a retiree, I don't buy as many books as I once did, but I'm finding a lot of books by these authors in our local library. And I just love it when I win a new book.

Elva Cobb Martin, South Carolina said...

Good job, Vonda, dealing with a subject that we can all fall prey to at times and have to battle!
Hugs,
Elva Cobb Martin, President ACFW-SC Chapter www.elvamartin.com